What a year! In addition to reaching several other milestones– my youngest started kindergarten, my oldest is reading like a champ, I found new digs in a neighborhood I love– deepeningwisdom.com is three years old! Also, this is the one year anniversary of my monthly contribution to a local blog here in Montclair, NJ– Barista …
Unbeing dead isn’t being alive. — E. E. Cummings My son was once telling me an elaborate story about a bug that was “a little bit dead”. I thought to myself: It is either dead or alive, no in between. But is there? Aren’t many of us walking around a little bit dead? We stay …
I have a confession about my job as a coach: Coaching is really easy. And this is mostly because of the dope (fly, fresh, awesome, incredible) women I work with. It is also especially easy for me because I have this way of being able to identify the good in people. I see beauty, potential, …
Here’s my latest post for a local blog here in Northern NJ, Barista Kids. Many of us spend a lot of time and energy trying to be happy. And I’m here to tell you we’re getting it wrong. This is partly because we are making the wrong assumptions. Instead of asking How can I be …
Are you needing a kick in the pants gentle nudge to get back on track? Are you tired of feeling depleted? Are you ready to get real? If you answered YES to any of these questions. Now is your chance to be about it. Join the Woman Warrior 30 Day Regimen of Self Care Listen, … Continue reading »
Originally written and published for Barista Kids, a local online resource for parents. We could all use more love, right? Try these techniques to honor who you are and cultivate self-love. Tell the truth. What’s on your mind or in your heart? Get beyond the niceties and the shoulds and be with what’s really going … Continue reading »
It Felt Love By Hafiz How Did the rose Ever open it’s heart And give this world All its Beauty? It felt the encouragement of light Against its Being, Otherwise, We all remain Too Frightened. Continue reading »
Around this time of year we get together with family and friends to recount all the reasons we’re grateful. Most years I would bet that we’re grateful for what’s gone well, how we’re fortunate or lucky. This year might be our chance to make this ritual different. This year we can be grateful despite or … Continue reading »
You know, there is such a thing as being too responsible, too useful, too practical, too grown up. We all want to be good, right? And sometimes we are too good. We are good at our jobs. We are good at taking care of others. We are good at being there for our family … Continue reading »
Before I jump into my critique of Nicole Daedone’s TEDx talk (see YouTube clip below) I want to get something out of the way: Hell yes. I want to experience what she describes. Intimate, tender, mind blowing orgasms. Continue reading »
You are Art. Face Limbs Hands Feet Torso Heart. Art in physical form. Continue reading »
I don’t want to play the record Perch behind the lens Hold the pen. I want to be the song Continue reading »
I’m in therapy. And I’m an integrative coach. I believe in the power of coaching and am even sometimes cavalier enough to say its methods are superior. And therapy is where I’m at right now. I’m asked all the time what’s the difference between coaching and therapy? So I sought a great therapist to find … Continue reading »
Would Whole Foods be your first choice if you were jonesing for Cheetos, or Doritos, or Twinkies? Sure, you might find something that resembles junk food. Smart Puffs or chocolate chip scones, maybe? We are likely to feel dissatisfied with what we end up getting at this store if we go there expecting a … Continue reading »
Hey y’all, Over the weekend I was featured on a local blog here in Northern NJ, Barista Kids. I wanted to share the article I wrote especially for moms (and the types of mothers I coach with). xoxo Eloiza I don’t have much new to tell you, really I don’t. I had an insight the … Continue reading »
Meditative practices are based on the assumption that part of being human is being forgetful. We leave and then return to a healthy practice. We abandon and then re-commit to a meaningful ritual. We forget and then remember some deep wisdom. There have, undoubtedly, been moments in our lives when we sat in contemplative silence, … Continue reading »
Is this YOU? A Warrior is a woman who is developing: A relationship with her physical body. She might not be in tip top shape, but she is conscious enough to walk or bike regularly or hit the park or the gym weekly. A relationship to her purpose. She might not always love … Continue reading »
In this short clip Amelia Catone shows great courage and vulnerability in sharing her alter ego. Here’s an excerpt from what I’ve written in the past about Alter Egos & the Boxes We Put Them In In my work with women the theme of alter-egos unfailingly comes up. Alter-egos are those parts of ourselves that … Continue reading »
A couple of participants of the 2012 Self Care Challenge have mentioned feeling a little less motivated this second week. I am someone who knows first-hand how powerful these exercises can be, and still, I also find myself resisting a few of the daily practices. I am too tired. It’s not going to make that … Continue reading »
If you have any doubts at all about committing to self-care in 2012 take a look at this video. Desiree Adaway drops knowledge about how critical it is for women to start putting our needs first. She shares part of her own journey and how she is making her vision a reality. Continue reading »
This is one of the most astute, sharp and dope video bloggers out there, Jay Smooth, talking about his little hater: Recently I expounded upon the evils of haters. You know, the folks who criticize, demean, devalue and just plain hate on the contribution we are trying to make to the world. I wrote about … Continue reading »
This is it. This is your chance. Your chance to really start loving yourself. It is likely that you weren’t loved exactly the way you needed or wanted to be growing up… Imperfect world. Imperfect parents. Imperfect you. Continue reading »
Recently a dear friend found out that the person who she was in a relationship with was lying to her– for o v e r a y e a r. If you have been in a similar situation (as I have) you can imagine how “fuck you” might be an appropriate response… Continue reading »
Have you ever noticed how hard it is to tell the truth? I mean the real truth of our being. Not the, I’m fine. How are you? typical response… To tell what is really present for us in any moment is difficult. And when we do risk to share it is, sadly, not always received … Continue reading »
My latest post over at Barista Kids. First things first, I teach my own kids to be “good” and conform. A measure of compliance is, of course, important and valuable. But what do we lose by carrying that pressure to be “good” into adulthood? If you’re a woman you’ve likely been trained to be easy … Continue reading »
I’ve heard and read some poignant reflections and sharp analysis about the tragic events of December 14, 2012. I’m at a loss for words. I have nothing to add to the debate. I have nothing to add to testimonies of grief. I’m left with a deep sorrow and a deep desire to heal. We suffer. … Continue reading »
