Have you ever noticed how hard it is to tell the truth? I mean the real truth of our being. Not the, I’m fine. How are you? typical response… To tell what is really present for us in any moment is difficult. And when we do risk to share it is, sadly, not always received with the presence and compassion we would hope.
Yet, it is vital to be honest and authentic. To find the safe spaces where we can whisper, pray, shout, sob, or state our truth.
Imagine a space where you could say, I’m grieving, or I’m in lust, or I’ve fallen out of love, or I’m afraid, or I feel alive and triumphant or I’m angry. Imagine having any of those confessions received without shaming or questioning or judging. Imagine the feelings that arise when you finally speak what is in your heart, or on your mind, or emerging from your soul.
Of course, this would require us to be tuned in to what our heart, mind, or soul is speaking. And, no, our inner world does not always reflect the most ideal, enlightened or common sense position. That’s what makes telling the truth so difficult. Being with the reality of the human experience is scary stuff.
Being with the Truth sometimes seems easier. We are light and love. We are all connected. There is a higher purpose to our existence. We have the capacity to be loving, generous and merciful beyond our understanding. Miracles happen everyday… Yet, the truth of our relationship with ourselves, with others, with money, with food, with sex, are what often is left unexpressed.
It almost seems easier to accept the cliches about spirituality and healing than it is to accept the state of things as they are. Both are true: We are whole and wounded, sages and clowns, lightness and shadow…
So now that you’ve committed to being with what is, where do we begin? We might want to start with becoming curious about our relationships. Noticing how we really feel when we’re with that person. Noticing where our money goes. Noticing what we’re putting into our bodies. Noticing how we spend our time…
What I am proposing is to just look. Notice rather than analyze or examine. Place your gentle awareness rather than judge as right or wrong, stupid or smart.
We sometimes think that saying what is difficult to admit (even to ourselves) will imprison us. The opposite is true. Identifying and expressing our truth in solitude and stillness is an act of transformation.
Start telling the truth.
Here are some exercises to help you get started:
- Imagine your heart as a smaller version of yourself. What is she wanting to tell you? How is she moving? What’s the expression on her face?
- Write a letter to a loved one, your future self, your guardian angel or the Creator. Write from your heart. What most needs to be expressed in this moment? No issue is too big, nor too trivial.
- Speak your prayers. Connect with your Higher Power out loud. Whisper, sing, cry, or yell. Don’t hold back, ask for what you are needing.
- Use a journal or even a recording device to freely express your ideas. Don’t censor. Just speak or write what is there in that moment.
- Confess your deepest truth to a trusted friend, coach or counselor. The act of having someone receive you in an open-hearted way is healing.
These exercises are simple, yet powerful. Truth telling is a practice. Once you start being honest about where you are or who you are in any moment, it changes. Truth telling transforms our reality. It frees us. It heals us. It empowers us. Patience, open-heartedness, and courage is required.
What truth is waiting to be expressed? Go free it.