I’m in therapy. And I’m a transformational coach. I believe in the power of coaching and am even sometimes cavalier enough to say its methods are superior. And therapy is where I’m at right now.
I’m asked all the time what’s the difference between coaching and therapy? So I sought a great therapist to find out.
Um, no. That’s not what really happened. I needed a therapist. And I am grateful that I can speak from experience about the value and deep healing available in both coaching and therapy. I’m no stranger to psychotherapy. After profoundly positive changes in my life as the result of working with a life coach, I believed I had outgrown therapy.
Yet, I found myself stuck in some old patterns. I had experienced some challenging life events. I needed help in further understanding my past and needed someone to lovingly guide me through a grieving process.
So what have I learned in therapy this time around? Good therapy, coaching, and other emotional healing work have more in common than not and this becomes more true as the fields evolve…
Some differences include:
- Therapy is often sought during crisis or emotional turmoil
- Coaching is often sought after you have already done some therapy and are ready to build on strengths
- Therapy examines the past to understand the present
- Coaching focuses on the present and relies on the wisdom of your future self
- Therapy relies primarily on the therapist’s wisdom and analysis
- Coaching relies primarily on your wisdom
- Therapy operates mostly with the mind and memories
- Coaching includes and integrates cues from the body and your kinesthetic experience
Both (good) therapy and coaching:
- promote emotional healing
- require deep listening
- encourage adopting a different perspective
- help you in making a shift
- accept you exactly as you are
- see you as whole and capable of healing
I have a profound respect and reverence for any work that helps me feel more alive, experience more freedom, and allow more joy. Both types of work require courage, strength, vulnerability and an open heart.